Ubudlelwano bungaba buhle futhi bube nzima ngezikhathi ezinhle kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, lapho othile etholakala enesifo esibi njenge-lymphoma, izici ezinhle kakhulu nezimbi kakhulu zanoma ibuphi ubuhlobo zingakhuliswa.
Leli khasi lizohlinzeka ngamathiphu okuthi ungabugcina kanjani ubudlelwano nabantu obakhathalelayo uma wena, noma othile omthandayo kutholakala ukuthi une-lymphoma.
Amakhasi ahlobene
Yini ongayilindela
Abantu abaningi baqaphela izinguquko ebunganini babo kanye nezinguquko zomndeni lapho bephila nomdlavuza. Abanye abantu bathola ukuthi abasondelene kakhulu nabo baba kude, kanti abanye abebengasondelene nabo, basondele.
Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi abazange bafundiswe ukukhuluma ngokugula nezinye izinto ezinzima. Lapho abantu behlehla, ngokuvamile kungenxa yokuthi abazi ukuthi bathini, noma besaba noma yini abayoyisho, izokucasula noma yenze izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu.
Abanye bangase bakhathazeke ngokwabelana ngezindaba zabo ezinhle noma ezimbi, noma imizwa nawe. Bangase bangafuni ukukuthwalisa kanzima ngesikhathi ungaphilile. Noma bangase bazizwe benecala lapho izinto zibahambela kahle lapho unokuningi okwenzekayo.
Amahlaya nokubhuqa
Abanye abantu basebenzisa amahlaya nokubhuqa njengendlela yokubhekana nezimo abangakhululekile kuzo. Abanye bayisebenzisela ukuzama ukuletha ukumamatheka ebusweni bakho. Kodwa-ke, amahlaya nokubhuqa kuhluke kakhulu futhi kwamukelwa ngendlela ehlukile ngezikhathi ezihlukene nakubantu abahlukene.
Abanye abantu bangase bathole amahlaya nokubhuqa kuhlekisa, kuhlakaniphile futhi kukhulula ngisho nokukhululeka ebunzimeni besifo noma isimo sabo. Abanye bangase bakuthole kunamahloni noma kucasula, kubenze bazizwe bebodwa kunangaphambili.
Zama ukukhumbula ukuthi abantu abaningi abafuni ukulimaza imizwa yakho noma ukukuphoxa. Zama ukukhumbula ukuthi lo muntu uvamise ukusabela kanjani ezimeni angakhululekile kuzo, noma ukuthi uvamise ukusebenzisa kanjani amahlaya noma ukubhuqa nawe. Lokhu kungakusiza uqonde ukuthi bavelaphi.
Ukuxhumana okuvulekile
Bazise uma ungekho esimweni sokuhlekisa noma ukubhuqa bese ubazisa ukuthi yini oyidingayo. Abantu abaningi bangathuka uma bezwa ukuthi bakuzwise ubuhlungu noma bakwenza uzizwe ungakhululekile. Ungasho izinto ezinjengalezi:
- Imithi engiyidlayo njengamanje idlala kabi ngendlela engihlekisa ngayo, singaqeda amahlaya nokubhuqa okwamanje?
- Ngikhathele kakhulu ukubona uhlangothi oluhlekisayo lwalokhu okwamanje.
- Ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima, kodwa singakhuluma ngokujulile ngalokhu okwesikhashana?
- Usizo olusebenzayo lungangisiza kakhulu kunokubhuqa okwamanje. Ungakwazi yini ukusiza (ukuthenga, ukwenza ukudla, ukuqoqa izingane, ukusiza emsebenzini njll.).
- Ngicela ungichazele ukuthi usho ukuthini ngalokho?
Ukulahlekelwa ukuthinta
Abantu abaningi basitshele ukuthi uma bene-lymphoma, noma benakekela umuntu one-lymphoma, balahlekelwa abangane nomndeni. Ezinye izizathu zokwenzeka lokhu zibalwe ngezansi.
* izinto eziza kuqala kuwe zishintshile.
* awunawo amandla noma isikhathi sokwenza izinto ojwayele ukuzenza ngazo.
* abantu bayesaba okwenzeka empilweni yakho, futhi bayazabalaza ngokwabo.
* kungenzeka ukuthi abakaze bazi muntu onomdlavuza ngaphambili futhi abazi ukuthi yini oyidingayo.
* bashonelwe othile ngenxa yomdlavuza noma bake bababona bedonsa kanzima futhi bayesaba ukuphinde babhekane nalokho futhi.
* abanye abazi ukuthi bathini noma benzeni, ngakho bagwema izimo ezingakhululekile.
* abangani nomndeni bakhathazeka ngokukhuluma okungalungile noma ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu.
* abantu abafuni ukukuthwalisa kanzima ngezindaba noma izinkinga zabo.
* ababoni ukuthi ukungabikho kwabo kuyakuthinta.
* bakholelwa ukuthi uzofinyelela uma udinga okuthile noma ufuna ukubamba.
* ubungane babo abudluli endaweni yokusebenza, ezemidlalo noma umsebenzi enivame ukuwenza ndawonye.
* Abantu baba matasa futhi banezinkinga zabo, ngakho bangase bangabi nawo amandla okuxhumana.
Akusho ukuthi abanandaba
Lapho ucabangela okunye kwalokhu okungenhla, kungase kube lula ukuqaphela ukuthi abantu bangase bangahlali ngoba bengenandaba; Kodwa kunalokho, bahlala kude ngoba banendaba. Kungase kube kuwena ukuthi ufinyelele kubo futhi ubazise ukuthi usabadinga empilweni yakho futhi ulungise indlela, nabo ukwenza lokhu kwenzeke.
Bona isigaba esingezansi kokuthi Amathiphu ukuze ugcine lobu budlelwano.
Hlola kabusha ubudlelwano bakho
Kungase kusize ukuhlola kabusha ubudlelwano bakho nabantu. Ungase ubone ukuthi ubutshalwe kakhulu ebudlelwaneni kunabo. Lokhu kungase kukusize udedele abanye abantu noma ubamukele “njengokwengeziwe ongakukhetha” ekuphileni kwakho kunokuba umlingiswa oyinhloko. Ukudedela noma ukushintsha okulindele kulobu budlelwano kungakhulula ingqondo yakho, amandla kanye nesikhathi kulabo abafuna ngempela ukuba lapho ngenxa yakho.
Abanye abantu basondele
Yize sike saba nabantu abaningi abathi balahlekelwe abantu lapho bebhekene ne-lymphoma, siphinde sathola ukuthi abanye ubudlelwano babo sebuqina. Abanye baze bathi abantu abebengalindelekile empilweni yabo sebephenduke abasekeli babo abakhulu nomngani wabo. Zazise lokhu futhi ugxilise amandla akho kulobu budlelwano. Zigcine ziseduze futhi:
- Yamukela konke okunikezwayo kosizo - uma umtitilizo ungekhona ngempela okudingayo, cela lokho okudingayo uma ukunikezwa kungena.
- Ungaxolisi ngokudinga usizo kodwa bonisa ukubonga lapho uluthola.
- Gcina idayari yama-aphoyintimenti, imiphumela emibi kanye nalapho unamandla amaningi. Ungase uthole isonto ngaphambi kokwelashwa kungase kube isikhathi sakho esingcono kakhulu. Hlela ukubona abantu ngezikhathi lapho unamandla.
- Bazise uma udinga isikhathi sokuba uwedwa futhi wenze umzamo wokuxhumana nabo lapho uzizwa ungcono.
Ubungane ngokumelene nobungane
Ukuqonda indima abantu abanayo ezimpilweni zethu kubalulekile ekubekeni okulindelwe okungokoqobo kanye nemingcele enempilo. Abantu abaningi bayadumala lapho bephoxwa abangane babo. Kodwa, lapho uhlola ubuhlobo, ungase uthole ukuthi nakuba ninobungane anikaze nibe nobungane.
Fububele imayelana nendlela esisebenzisana ngayo nabantu futhi ingaba yingxenye yobuntu bethu. Ubungane Nokho, imayelana ubuhlobo. Ubungane beqiniso bungadlulela ngaphandle kwendawo yokusebenza, isonto noma indawo enentshisekelo efanayo. Ukuqonda umehluko kungakusiza ukwakha okulindelwe okungokoqobo kanye nemingcele enempilo nabantu osempilweni yakho.
Imingcele yobungcweti
Isibonelo, odokotela bakho, abahlengikazi nabanye abasebenzi bezempilo kufanele bahlale benobungane nawe, kodwa ababona abangani bakho. Kukhona umngcele wezobuchwepheshe lapho behileleke ekunakekeleni kwakho, kodwa ungabandakanyeki (futhi ngokomthetho awukwazi) ukuzibandakanya empilweni yakho yansuku zonke, inkundla yezokuxhumana noma ezinye izici zempilo yakho yomuntu siqu. Uyisiguli noma iklayenti labo futhi bangudokotela wakho, unesi noma omunye umhlinzeki wezempilo.
Ngokufanayo, ungase ube nokusebenzelana okunobungane nabantu emsebenzini abavalelekile emsebenzini. Kodwa uma lokhu kusebenzelana nalabo bantu abafanayo kungangeni ebudlelwaneni obungaphandle komsebenzi noma imicimbi ehlobene nomsebenzi, khona-ke uba nokusebenzelana okunobungane nozakwenu noma osebenzisana nabo kunokuba ubungane beqiniso.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukusebenzisana kwakho kunobungani kangakanani nozakwenu noma nozakwenu, kungase kungabi khona kuwe lapho uthatha ikhefu emsebenzini.
Amathiphu okugcina ubudlelwano nabangane nomndeni
Ungasiza abangani bakho nomndeni ukuthi baqonde ukuthi kulungile ukukhuluma nge-lymphoma yakho (noma obathandayo) noma ukwelashwa uma befuna. Noma ngisho ukukhuluma ngalokho okwenzekayo ekuphileni kwabo. Uma ukhululekile ukukhuluma nge-lymphoma yakho kanye nokwelashwa, buza imibuzo efana nalena:
- Yini ongathanda ukuyazi nge-lymphoma yami (noma abathandekayo bami)?
- Imiphi imibuzo onayo mayelana nokwelashwa kanye nemiphumela engemihle?
- Kungakanani ofuna ukukwazi?
- Izinto zizohluka kimi okwesikhashana, singahlala kanjani sithintana?
- Ngingase ngidinge usizo oluthile ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezizayo ngezinto ezinjengokupheka, ukuhlanza, ukunakekela izingane kanye nokugitsheliswa kokuya kuma-aphoyintimenti ami. Ungasiza ngani?
- Ngisafuna ukwazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngawe - Ngitshele okuhle nokubi - Futhi konke okuphakathi!
- Angifuni ukukhuluma nge-lymphoma yami kodwa ngibuze mayelana (noma ngabe yini ongathanda ukukhuluma ngayo).
- Uyawazi amahlaya amahle? Ngidinga ukuhleka.
- Ungakwazi yini ukuhlala lapha nami ngenkathi ngikhala, noma ngicabanga noma ngiphumule?
- Uma unamandla, ungababuza ukuthi - Yini oyidingayo kimi?
Yazisa abantu uma kulungile ukuvakasha
I-lymphoma yakho kanye nokwelashwa kwayo kunganciphisa amasosha akho omzimba. Kubalulekile ukwazisa abantu ukuthi kungase kungaphephile ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuvakasha, kodwa ukuthi uma kwenzeka bangakwazi ukugona. Uma ungazizwa njengezivakashi, yazisa abantu ukuthi ungathanda ukuhlala uthintana kanjani, noma ubabuze iziphakamiso.
- Kwazise bangahambi uma begula. Cabangela ezinye izindlela zokuxhumana.
- Uma ukhululekile ukwanga abantu futhi bephilile, bazise ukuthi udinga ukwanga.
- Bukelani imuvi ndawonye - kodwa emakhaya enu ngokusondeza, ividiyo noma ucingo.
- Vula ingxoxo yeqembu kweyodwa yezinsiza zemiyalezo noma zevidiyo ezitholakalayo.
- Qala uhlelo lokuthi ukuvakasha kwamukelekile nini nokuthi yini okudingeka yenziwe. Hlola wethu Ikhasi lezinto ezisebenzayo ngaphansi ukuhlela ukwelashwa. Uzothola izinhlelo zokusebenza eziwusizo ezingakusiza abangani bakho nomndeni wakho bakusize.
Futhi ekugcineni, uma ubona ubudlelwano buyashintsha, khuluma ngakho. Yazisa abantu ukuthi basabalulekile, futhi usafuna ukulondoloza ukusondelana owawunakho ngaphambilini.
Okunye Resources
Ukugcina ubudlelwano kungaba nzima futhi kukhathaze ngisho nangezikhathi ezinhle kakhulu. Kodwa uma unomdlavuza, noma weseka umuntu onomdlavuza kungaba nzima nakakhulu. Nokho umzamo uyakhokha ngoba ukuba nobudlelwano obuhle ngaso sonke isikhathi kwenza ukuphila kujabulise.
Kukhona ukwesekwa okutholakalayo ukukusiza ufunde amakhono amasha ukuze uthuthukise noma uthuthukise ubudlelwano obuqinile obunempilo. Bona isixhumanisi esingezansi ukuze uthole ulwazi olwengeziwe ngosekelo olutholakala esifundeni sakho.
Ubudlelwano emsebenzini
Ubudlelwano bomsebenzi bungasebenza futhi bube nobungane, ngisho noma ungebona abangani nozakwenu. Abantu abaningi baye badumala lapho bengezwa kozakwabo lapho bephuma emsebenzini beyokwelashelwa. Noma uzabalaza ngendlela abantu abasebenzisana ngayo nabo uma sebebuyela emsebenzini.
Ukuqonda ukuthi abantu osebenza nabo bangase babe ozakwenu onobungane esikhundleni sokuba umngane kungakusiza ukuba ugweme okulindelekile okungenangqondo okuvela kubantu emsebenzini, ekugcineni ugweme ukudumazeka nokulimala.
Ilungelo lokugcinwa kuyimfihlo
Futhi unelungelo lokugcinwa kuyimfihlo, futhi lokhu kungase kube nzima kozakwenu abanezisusa ezinhle ukukwamukela. Bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi bafuna ulwazi olwengeziwe mayelana nokuthi kwenzakalani ngawe. Nokho, unelungelo lokugcinwa kuyimfihlo futhi awudingi ukwabelana nganoma yini ongakhululekile ukwabelana ngayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukusebenzisana kwakho bekunobungane kangakanani esikhathini esidlule.
Nokho, ungathola ukuthi ukwabelana ngolwazi kungase kusize abanye bakusekele kangcono emsebenzini. Kungase kuholele nasebunganeni uma abantu benamandla futhi bezimisele ukukweseka ngaphandle komsebenzi.
Yazisa abantu ukuthi yini oyidingayo
Ukubeka imingcele nokwazisa abantu ukuthi yini oyidingayo emsebenzini kungakusiza wena kanye nabo ukuba nizizwe nizethemba kakhudlwana ngokuthi ungayigcina kanjani indawo yokusebenza enobungane nenhlonipho.
Uma unenkinga ngalokhu, futhi unomphathi noma umnyango wezabasebenzi (HR) emsebenzini, zinike isikhathi sokuhlangana nabo. Bangasiza ekutholeni izixazululo, futhi babone ukuthi yiluphi usizo abangalunikeza ukuze bakusize uphathe emsebenzini, futhi ulondoloze ubudlelwano bakho bomsebenzi.
Isifinyezo
- Umdlavuza ushintsha yonke into, okuhlanganisa ubudlelwano bakho nabangani, umndeni kanye nozakwenu.
- Abantu abaningi bafuna ukusiza, kodwa abaningi abazi ukuthi kanjani.
- Yazisa abantu ukuthi yini oyidingayo.
- Abantu abaningi basebenzisa amahlaya noma ukubhuqa ukuze bafihle ukungakhululeki kwabo, abanye banethemba lokukwenza uhleke. Uma ungakujabuleli, kuvume futhi ubatshele ukuthi ungathanda ukuxhumana kanjani.
- Manje yisikhathi esihle sokuhlola kabusha ubudlelwano empilweni yakho.
- Ubungane bumayelana nendlela esisebenzisana ngayo nabanye. Lokhu kuhlukile kubungane, okuwubudlelwane.
- Ukuqonda uhlobo lobudlelwano onabo nabantu abahlukene kungasiza ukubeka okulindelwe okungokoqobo, ukwakha imingcele enempilo futhi ugweme ukudumazeka.
- Kukhona ukwesekwa okutholakalayo ukukusiza ugcine ubudlelwano bakho obubalulekile nobuseduze noma obuseduze.
