Ubudlelwane bunokuba bukhulu kwaye bube nzima ngamaxesha angcono. Nangona kunjalo, xa umntu efunyaniswa enesifo esibi kakhulu njenge-lymphoma, eyona miba ilungileyo kunye nembi kakhulu yobudlelwane inokunyuswa.
Eli phepha liza kunika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokugcina ubudlelwane nabantu obakhathalelayo xa wena, okanye umntu omthandayo efunyaniswe ene-lymphoma.
Amaphepha ahambelanayo
Yintoni ongayilindela
Abantu abaninzi baqaphela utshintsho kubuhlobo babo kunye neentsapho zabo xa behlala nomhlaza. Abanye abantu bafumanisa ukuba abo basondeleyo kubo baba kude, ngelixa abanye bebengasondelelani nabo, basondele.
Ngelishwa, abantu abaninzi abakafundiswa indlela yokuthetha ngokugula nezinye izinto ezinzima. Xa abantu bebuya umva, kudla ngokubangelwa kukuba bengazi ukuba mabathini, okanye boyika nantoni na abayithethayo, eya kukucaphukisa okanye yenze izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi.
Abanye banokuxhalaba malunga nokwabelana ngeendaba zabo ezilungileyo okanye ezimbi, okanye iimvakalelo kunye nawe. Basenokungafuni kukuthwalisa uxanduva ngoxa ungaphilanga. Okanye basenokuziva benetyala xa izinto zibahambela kakuhle xa kukho izinto ezininzi eziqhubekayo.
Uburharha kunye nempoxo
Abanye abantu basebenzisa uburharha kunye nempoxo njengendlela yokujongana neemeko abangaziva ngazo. Abanye bayisebenzisela ukuzama ukuzisa uncumo ebusweni bakho. Nangona kunjalo, uburharha kunye nokuphoxa kwahluke kakhulu kwaye kwamkelwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo kunye nabantu abahlukeneyo.
Abanye abantu basenokufumanisa ukuba uburharha nokuphoxa kuhlekisa, kubukrelekrele kwaye kwanesiqabu esamkelekileyo kubunzulu besifo okanye imeko yabo. Abanye basenokukufumanisa kuneentloni okanye kukhubekisa, kubenza bazive bodwa ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
Zama ukukhumbula ukuba abantu abaninzi abafuni kukukhathaza okanye bakuphoxe. Zama ukukhumbula ukuba lo mntu udla ngokuphendula njani kwiimeko angakhululekanga kuzo, okanye indlela aqhele ukusebenzisa ngayo uburharha okanye ukuphoxa nawe. Oku kunokukunceda uqonde apho bavela khona.
Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo
Bazise ukuba awukho kwimeko yoburharha okanye impoxo kwaye ubazise ukuba yintoni na oyifunayo. Uninzi lwabantu luya kothuka kukufunda ukuba bakwenze buhlungu okanye bakwenza ungakhululekanga. Unokuthi izinto ezifana:
- Iyeza endiliselayo ngoku lidlala kakubi ngoburharha bam, singabuphelisa uburharha nokuphoxa okwangoku?
- Ndidinwe kakhulu ukubona icala elihlekisayo lalo mzuzu.
- Ndiyazi ukuba kunzima, kodwa ngaba singathetha nzulu ngale nto okwethutyana?
- Uncedo olusebenzayo luya kundinceda ngaphezu kokuphoxa okwangoku. Ngaba unokunceda (ukuthenga, ukwenza isidlo, ukuthabatha abantwana, ukuncedisa emsebenzini njl njl.).
- Ngaba ungacacisa ukuba uthetha ukuthini ngaloo nto nceda?
Ukuphulukana nokubamba
Abantu abaninzi baye basixelela ukuba xa bene-lymphoma, okanye benyamekela umntu one-lymphoma, balahlekelwa ngabahlobo kunye nosapho. Ezinye izizathu zokwenzeka koku zidweliswe ngezantsi.
* Izinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe zitshintshile.
* awunawo amandla okanye ixesha lokwenza izinto oqhele ukuzenza ngazo.
* abantu bayoyika okwenzekayo ebomini bakho, kwaye bayazabalaza ngokwabo.
• kusenokwenzeka ukuba abazange bamazi umntu onomhlaza ngaphambili kwaye abayazi into oyifunayo.
* baphulukene nomntu ngenxa yomhlaza okanye bambone esokola kwaye bayoyika ukuphinda badlule kuloo nto.
* abanye abayazi into emabayithethe okanye bayenze, ngoko bayakuphepha iimeko ezingathandekiyo.
* abahlobo nentsapho bazikhathaza ngokuthetha into ephosakeleyo okanye ukwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi.
* abantu abafuni kukuthwalisa nzima ngeendaba okanye iingxaki zabo.
* abaqondi ukuba ukungabikho kwabo kuyakuchaphazela.
* bakholelwa ukuba uya kufikelela ukuba ufuna into okanye ufuna ukubamba.
* Ubuhlobo babo abunabi ngaphaya kwendawo yokusebenza, umdlalo okanye umsebenzi oqhele ukuwenza kunye.
* Abantu bayaxakeka yaye banezabo iingxaki, ngoko basenokungabi nawo amandla okuhlala benxibelelana nabo.
Ayithethi ukuba abakhathali
Xa uqwalasela ezinye zezi zingasentla, kusenokuba lula ukuqonda ukuba abantu basenokungahlali kude kuba bengakhathali; Kodwa kunoko, bahlala kude kuba bayakhathala. Kungaxhomekeke kuwe ukuba ufikelele kwaye ubazise ukuba usabafuna ebomini bakho kwaye wenze indlela, kunye nabo ukwenza oku kwenzeke.
Jonga icandelo elingezantsi kwiiNgcebiso zokugcina obu budlelwane.
Phinda uvavanye ubudlelwane bakho
Kusenokukunceda ukuhlolisisa kwakhona ulwalamano lwakho nabantu. Unokubona ukuba utyalwe ngakumbi kubudlelwane kunokuba babenjalo. Oku kunokukunceda ukuba uyeke abanye abantu okanye ubamkele "njengento eyongezelelweyo ozikhethelayo" ebomini bakho kunokuba umlinganiswa ophambili. Ukuyeka okanye ukuguqula izinto ozilindeleyo kobu budlelwane kunokukhulula ingqondo yakho, amandla kunye nexesha labo bafuna ngokwenene ukuba khona ngenxa yakho.
Abanye abantu bayasondela
Ngelixa sinabantu abaninzi abathi baphulukene nabantu xa bejongene ne-lymphoma, siye saba nabantu abathi ubudlelwane babo bomelele. Abanye bade bathi abona bantu bebengalindelekanga ebomini babo baye baba ngoyena mntu ubaxhasayo kunye nomhlobo wabo. Zixabise ezi kwaye ugxininise amandla akho kobu budlelwane. Zigcine zikufutshane kwaye:
- Yamkela zonke izinikezelo zoncedo – ukuba isinikezelo asiyiyo le nto uyidingayo, cela into oyifunayo xa unikezelo lungena.
- Sukucela uxolo ngokufuna uncedo kodwa bonisa umbulelo xa ulufumana.
- Gcina idayari yamadinga, iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga kwaye xa unamandla amaninzi. Unokufumana iveki ngaphambi kokuba unyango lube lixesha lakho elifanelekileyo. Lungiselela ukubona abantu ngamaxesha apho unamandla.
- Bazise ukuba ufuna ixesha lokuba wedwa kwaye wenze umzamo wokuqhagamshelana nabo xa uziva ungcono.
Ubuhlobo ngokuchasene noBuhlobo
Ukuqonda indima abantu abanayo ebomini bethu kubalulekile ekubekeni izinto ezilindelekileyo kunye nemida ephilileyo. Abantu abaninzi bayadana xa bephoxwa ngabahlobo babo. Kodwa, xa uhlolisisa ulwalamano, usenokufumanisa ukuba nangona unobuhlobo omnye komnye usenokungakhe uhlakulele ubuhlobo.
Fububele imalunga nendlela esisebenzisana ngayo nabantu kwaye sinokuba yinxalenye yobuntu bethu. Ubuhlobo nangona kunjalo, imalunga nobudlelwane. Ubuhlobo bokwenene buya kunabela ngaphandle kwendawo yokusebenza, icawa okanye indawo yomdla ofanayo. Ukuqonda umahluko kunokukunceda ukuba wakhe ulindelo oluyinyani kunye nemida enempilo nabantu ebomini bakho.
Imida yobungcali
Umzekelo, oogqirha bakho, abongikazi kunye nabanye abasebenzi bezempilo kufuneka bahlale benobuhlobo nawe, kodwa ayingobahlobo bakho. Kukho umda wobuchwephesha apho babandakanyekayo ekunyamekeleni kwakho, kodwa musa (kwaye ngokusemthethweni abanako) ukubandakanyeka kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, kwimidiya yoluntu okanye eminye imiba yobomi bakho. Usisigulana okanye umxhasi wabo kwaye bangugqirha wakho, umongikazi okanye omnye umnikezeli wezempilo.
Ngokufanayo, unokuba nonxibelelwano lobuhlobo nabantu emsebenzini abavaleleke emsebenzini. Kodwa ukuba olu nxibelelwano kunye nabo bantu bafanayo alunwebeki kubudlelwane obungaphandle komsebenzi okanye iziganeko ezinxulumene nomsebenzi, ngoko unobudlelwane bobuhlobo kunye noogxa bakho okanye izinxulumani kunokuba nobuhlobo bokwenyani.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba unxibelelwano lwakho lunobuhlobo kangakanani nomntu osebenza naye okanye umntu osebenza naye, banokungabikho kuwe xa uthatha ixesha emsebenzini.
Iingcebiso zokugcina ubudlelwane kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho
Unokunceda abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho baqonde ukuba kulungile ukuthetha malunga (okanye abo ubathandayo) i-lymphoma okanye unyango ukuba bayafuna. Okanye bade bathethe ngezinto ezenzeka ebomini babo. Ukuba ukhululekile ukuthetha nge-lymphoma kunye nonyango, buza imibuzo efana nale:
- Yintoni ongathanda ukuyazi malunga ne-lymphoma yam (okanye endibathandayo)?
- Yeyiphi imibuzo onayo malunga nonyango kunye neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga?
- Ufuna ukwazi kangakanani?
- Izinto zizohluka okwethutyana kum, singahlala njani sinxibelelana?
- Ndingafuna uncedo kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zizayo ngezinto ezifana nokupheka, ukucoca, ukuhoya abantwana kunye nokunyuselwa kwidinga lam. Unganceda ngantoni?
- Ndisafuna ukwazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ngawe – Ndixelele okuhle okubi nokubi – Kwaye yonke into phakathi!
- Andifuni kuthetha nge-lymphoma yam kodwa ndibuze ngayo (nantoni na ongathanda ukuthetha ngayo).
- Uyazi naziphi iziqhulo ezilungileyo? Ndifuna ukuhleka.
- Ungahlala apha nam ngelixa ndilila, okanye ucinga okanye ndiphumle?
- Ukuba unawo amandla, unokubabuza - Yintoni oyifunayo kum?
Yazisa abantu ukuba kulungile ukutyelela
I-lymphoma yakho kunye nonyango lwayo inokunciphisa amajoni akho omzimba. Kubalulekile ukwazisa abantu ukuba akusoloko kukhuselekile ukutyelela, kodwa ukuba xa bekwenza njalo basenako ukukwanga. Ukuba awuziva ngathi ziindwendwe, yazisa abantu ukuba ungathanda ukuhlala unxibelelana njani, okanye ubacele iingcebiso.
- Bazise ukuba bangahambi xa begula. Cinga ngezinye iindlela zokuhlala unxibelelana.
- Ukuba ukhululekile ukwanga abantu kwaye baphile, baxelele ukuba ufuna ukuwolwa.
- Bukelani imuvi kunye - kodwa kumakhaya enu ngokusondeza, ividiyo okanye umnxeba.
- Vula incoko yeqela kwenye yeenkonzo ezininzi zemiyalezo okanye zevidiyo ezikhoyo.
- Qala uluhlu lwaxa undwendwelo lwamkelekile kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni. Jonga wethu Iphepha lezinto ezisebenzayo phantsi ukucwangcisa unyango. Uya kufumana usetyenziso oluluncedo olunokunceda abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho lwakho kuluhlu loncedo.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukuba ubona ubudlelwane buguquka, thetha ngayo. Yazisa abantu ukuba basabalulekile, kwaye usafuna ukugcina ukusondelana owawunabo ngaphambili.
Ezinye izixhobo
Ukugcina ubudlelwane kunokuba nzima kwaye kudinwe nangawona maxesha alungileyo. Kodwa xa unomhlaza, okanye uxhasa umntu onomhlaza kunokuba nzima ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo umzamo uhlawula ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane obuhle buhlala busenza ubomi bunentsingiselo.
Kukho inkxaso efumanekayo yokukunceda ufunde izakhono ezitsha zokuphuhlisa okanye ukukhulisa ubudlelwane obuluqilima obunempilo. Jonga ikhonkco elingezantsi ngolwazi oluthe kratya malunga nenkxaso efumanekayo kwilizwe lakho.
Ubudlelwane emsebenzini
Ubudlelwane bobuchwephesha bunokuba bubuchwephesha kunye nobuhlobo, nangona ungengobahlobo nabalingane bakho. Abantu abaninzi baye baphoxeka xa bengeva nto ithethwa ngabantu abasebenza nabo xa bephuma emsebenzini ukuze bafumane unyango. Okanye uzabalaza ngendlela abantu abanxibelelana ngayo nabo xa bebuyela emsebenzini.
Ukuqonda ukuba abantu osebenza nabo banokuba ngumntu osebenza naye onobubele endaweni yokuba ngumhlobo wakho kunokukunceda uphephe izinto ozilindeleyo ebantwini emsebenzini, ekugqibeleni uthintele ukuphoxeka nokwenzakala.
Ilungelo lemfihlo
Ukwanalo nelungelo lokuba neemfihlo, kwaye oku kunokuba nzima kwabo basebenza nabo abaneenjongo ezintle ukukwamkela. Basenokuziva befuna ulwazi oluninzi malunga nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ngawe. Nangona kunjalo, unelungelo lokuba yimfihlo kwaye awudingi ukwabelana ngayo nantoni na ongakhululekanga ukwabelana ngayo, nokuba unxibelelwano lwakho belunobuhlobo kangakanani kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, unokufumanisa ukuba ukwabelana ngolwazi kunokunceda abanye bakuxhase ngcono emsebenzini. Isenokukhokelela kubuhlobo ukuba abantu banamandla kunye nokuzimisela ukukuxhasa ngaphandle komsebenzi.
Yazisa abantu into oyifunayo
Ukumisela imida kunye nokwazisa abantu into oyifunayo emsebenzini kunokukunceda kwaye uzive uqinisekile malunga nendlela onokugcina ngayo indawo yokusebenza enobuhlobo nehloniphekileyo.
Ukuba unobunzima koku, kwaye unomphathi okanye isebe lezabasebenzi (HR) emsebenzini, zinike ixesha lokudibana nabo. Bangakunceda ekufumaneni izisombululo, kwaye babone ukuba yeyiphi inkxaso abanokuyinika ukukunceda ukuba ulawule emsebenzini, kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane bakho bomsebenzi.
isishwankathelo
- Umhlaza utshintsha yonke into, kuquka ubudlelwane bakho nabahlobo, usapho kunye noogxa bakho.
- Uninzi lwabantu luyafuna ukunceda, kodwa abaninzi abazi ukuba njani.
- Yazisa abantu into oyifunayo.
- Abantu abaninzi basebenzisa uburharha okanye impoxo ukufihla ukungonwabi kwabo, abanye banethemba lokukwenza uhleke. Ukuba awukunandiphi, yiqonde kwaye ubaxelele indlela ongathanda ukuthetha ngayo.
- Ngoku lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuphinda uphonononge ubudlelwane ebomini bakho.
- Ubuhlobo bumalunga nendlela esisebenzisana ngayo nabanye. Oku kwahlukile kubuhlobo, obububudlelwane.
- Ukuqonda uhlobo lobudlelwane onabo nabantu abohlukeneyo kunokunceda ukuseka ulindelo olusengqiqweni, ukwakha imida esempilweni kwaye uphephe ukuphoxeka.
- Kukho inkxaso ekhoyo yokukunceda ugcine ubudlelwane bakho obubalulekileyo nolusondeleyo okanye obusondeleyo.
